This is now ready for share. Well available for share, never ever ready being I self published without an editor and fancy prose. ( the minute I look back at it, I will see all its flaws, and hate it, and want to not have put it out there — happens every time I revisit stuff I wrote?!) Anyways, I need help getting the message out.
Apologies, today, this book is not available to share – I borrowed too much information in an attempt to make it MUST READ, MUST ACT. Alas, its down for now, but I did have good intentions:
Some of the reasons why I wrote She Too.
We are inundated with stories about sexual assault, predators, abuse of power, she said ~ he said. For as long as I can remember it was UNDERSTOOD that she kept her mouth shut if she wanted the job, needed to keep her job, her position, her reputation intact, her sense of SELF. Not until recently has it become cool to say ME TOO.
I wrote She Too, a vomit on the page self-help book for me. Turned out my therapeutic exercise was actually valuable in getting others to open dialogue about the topics of hazing, sexual assault on college campuses, and young adult suicide. Early readers challenged me to share more broadly, and in the process I realized how incredibly large the collusion and cover ups have become.
I spoke to the director of compliance at NCAA with what I believed would be breaking news of a heinous crime – coaches and athletic staff at a top public university were colluding, covering up, breaking the law. This was hazing, sexual assault and abuse of power; required reporters had a duty under the law no? Here’s what I learned.
- There is already a book. Many books. I read one by Jessica Luther called Unsportsmanlike Conduct which delivered for me the entire playbook that NCAA and Universities across the country have been colluding under. I found a book dated back to 2000, seventeen years ago, about hazing being a problem on college campuses. Mothers losing children were writing.
- There already are web sites. I found out that itsonus.org spearheaded by Obama and Biden has had about the same amount of success as that book. Have you heard of either? Nor had I.
- There are already dozens of organizations. Entire organizations devoted to ending violence, assault, suicide; wait, way more than dozens. End Rape On Campus EROC is already a dot org. Good folks across this land have already been at this quest to give voice to victims and survivors, provide resources, for years.
- They have already made a documentary. The Hunting Ground in 2015 – you may have missed that one in favor of something a little more upbeat or appealing at your local movie theater.
- There is already a song. Lady Gaga. “Til It Happens To You” is likely the most successful of the components being its something with a surprisingly upbeat melody you can sing along to.
- The news media is already covering plenty of assault, hazing, and criminal acts – not just 60 Minutes folks, but Good Morning America.
What could I possibly bring to the table?
Well here’s my pledge. I know the road traveled, and I can boldly type #MeToo as my status on Facebook. I plan to print and share She Too as my small effort to aid in the Tipping Point on all this bullshit. We have to be nearing it.
If you’d like a free copy of my non-literary genius vomit on the page, so that you can open dialogue with young people in your life, I am happy to send it. We all have to do our part in talking about these big ticket items with our family and friends in order for it to cease. I stood along the sidelines in fear until recently, and I still feel tangible terror sharing my weak prose, but I must do something.